By Tanya E. Friedman
Training wheels off, my midnight blue two-wheeler wobbled underneath me. Balance seemed impossible. I pitched right then lurched left, teeth gritting in concentration and fear, as my father, holding tight to the back of my bike seat, ran alongside. I teetered along the paved entrance to Central Park at 96th Street.
“Pedal fast, eyes up,” he chanted.
My beautiful bicycle leaned and tipped, one way and then the other, shaky, slow, a whoosh of fear, a plea not to let me fall until all at once, for an instant, my brain, core, limbs connected and my body understood balance came from the rider, not the bike. A flash of balance stretched long and stayed and stayed and suddenly I could ride. My legs pumped and I felt myself grin as I found smooth flight and then freedom, the certainty I could do this forever. I could ride right off the earth and visit the moon.
“Let go!” I shouted to my dad, but, of course, he already had.
Tanya E. Friedman is a queer writer, educator and researcher who writes about how privilege and empathy inform our inner and outer worlds. Her work has appeared in Atticus Review, Motherwell, and Radical Teacher, among others. She is writing a memoir about how many mistakes she had to make to become the kind of teacher and grown up she wanted to be (spoiler: a lot).
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AHHHHH! I love this.
Thank you!
So beautiful, that feeling of freedom. Love your dad!
Thank you!— I’ll let him know 🙂
Oh, Tanya, I remember this moment in my own life so vividly now that you’ve given me this beautiful path into it. You’ve captured all the feels, physical and emotional, entirely! Thank you.
Thank you, Annie! I’m so glad it brought that moment back to you. I feel like learning to ride is right up there with learning to read in terms of meaningful moments!
I loved every word. Especially the last line. Beautiful!
The best last line!
The final line really hit it!
Thank you!!
Thank you, Alex! I felt it! That first time I claimed balance as coming from me not the bike. Love how the idea of this takes us into the world, the parent already trusting our new faith.
Thank you. It definitely lands differently as a parent myself now!
Delightful. I have such strong beautiful memories of teaching my kids to ride a bike. I’m sure your dad does too.
“…but of course, he had already done that.” Loved this. Thank you for sharing and for capturing the beautiful, mixed emotions of learning something new.
Really wonderful. I love all the imagery and the clear metaphor of learning to ride a bike. You’ve nspired me to return to a draft of a poem I am writing about bicycling adventures in childhood.
Brings back lovely memories of childhood and my older sister, Liz
You describe magic and miracle in a single motion. Beautiful work.
Tanya, you captured that bittersweet milestone during childhood wherein the young one zooms beyond the safety of a parent to freedom. Brava!