By Ann Stinson
Mom sits on her deck, a cedar perch newly attached to the room she’s chosen to be her last. It’s where we talk this summer, her ninety-first. I bring her fresh picked figs and we sigh as we bite into the soft flesh.
She points at an oak across the yard. “I need to talk to your dad about that tree.”
Worried, I ask if she wants him to cut it down.
“No, I want to thank him.”
Dad planted the oak when he and Mom were divorced—a lure to win her back. Along with the tree, she says, he gave her a floor length red nightgown. She points to her chest, wiggles her shoulders, and laughs. “I never wore it. But the tree–it’s sturdy.”
Ann Stinson is the author of The Ground at My Feet: Sustaining a Family and a Forest, a memoir rooted in southwestern Washington state. She hosts a weekly Substack, where she writes about life in the woods and the city, tending to ancient parents, and the books that accompany her.
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love the surprise of the end, the clear story telling, and the image that goes along with the writing
When you sit with an elder on the cusp of leaving, time lengthens and conversation compresses into shorthand, freighted with meaning. Presence is enough.
thank you!
yes, I feel so lucky to be with both my parents as they live their last years
I love the choices her mother makes. And the fact that she chooses her own end to her own story. Not everyone at 91 gets to do that. And the lovely juxtaposition between a sexy long red nightgown and the longevity and grandeur of an Oak tree.
I will read your opening sentence over and over again, hoping to emulate the way you captured your audience and located your reader. A work of art.
ha! Mom definitely makes her own choices : ) She’s a force of nature
So lovely. I love the wiggle of her shoulders and the sturdiness of the tree!
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this with a larger audience (which includes me!) I love how you convey, in a few carefully chosen words, so much of your Mom’s vibrancy. The phrase “…she’s chosen as her last” is perfection!
What a beautiful piece of writing! Swelled my chest with emotion. Absorbed me entirely. <3
Your words of praise give me sustenance
Ann! I believe I saw a draft of this amazing piece in a flash class we took together a couple years ago. I am so excited to see it here in print. It is glorious!
Debbie Chase
It’s possible : )Thanks for reading
Planting a tree to lure her back. Very fitting!
Beautiful job Ann!
This is perfection! Captures your Mom perfectly. XOXO
Lovely how you capture one moment in a lifetime of conversations, to show us who you both are, and the beauty of the moment.
” a lifetime of conversations” : )
What a lovely little piece. Even though my mother has been dead for 20 years, I long for these kinds of conversations with her, the kind we did not have a chance to have because of her last illness. You captured the longing of the mother and the daughter.
What a beautiful piece. I love how you’ve conveyed so much backstory without distracting from the story you’re telling.
Gorgeous writing! You do such an impressive job of integrating the depth of multiple relationships in this piece! I felt so grounded in your work!!