By Phong Nguyen
How to Disappear and Why by Kyle Minor
The experience of reading How to Disappear and Why is difficult to describe. The book defies easy categorization and like other exceptional, ambitious art, frustrates attempts to reduce it to a summary. But even as I call the book ambitious, I’m reminded of how the essays within it resist that by taking the reader through a deeply personal journey that includes exorcising ambition.
Some highlights from the book include “The Uber Diaries,” an account of the author’s experiences as a driver for the eponymous rideshare company after the disillusionment of a brief flirtation with literary celebrity; “On the Desire to Reject Narcissism,” which does the difficult work of expunging the inherent self-aggrandizement of art-making; “The Lizard, the Stink, the Bear, the Game, the Road to Somewhere,” which explores the deep motivations of the author’s psyche and its origins; and what I consider to be the artistic apotheosis of the collection, “The Sickness and the Song,” which begins with an around-the-world sailing race between eccentric personalities in 1968 and ends with the writer’s new understanding of his own raison d’etre. It is while reading this last essay that I realized that the book in my hands was sui generis, a completely new kind of book. On the one hand, it appears like something familiar by moving outward and inward, looking at phenomena of the world with curiosity, but with a compass that is internally oriented. This is not such a strange move when it comes to the essay genre. On the other hand, what it both celebrates and embodies is doing a thing for its own sake. It asks you to slow down, much as a spiritual text might, and consider the relationship between self and world.
If given the chance to reach the right readers, How to Disappear and Why has the potential to reshape the genre of creative nonfiction. It is the perfect antidote for the glossy AI era, as a book that possesses deep honesty and culminates in a personal reckoning that could scarcely be feigned by a machine. This collection of essays arises from an ethos of reality-hunger, a strong desire for authenticity and integrity in order to combat the veneer of polite aloofness that creates social estrangement. In fact, a part of the author’s reckoning in How to Disappear and Why is with the mirage of literary fame creating yearnings for impossible levels of external validation for one’s art, which is poison to the creative process and to genuine human relationships. The result is a book that confronts its own ambition as a part of the problem in an environment of isolation and the increasing culture of narcissism.
The itinerant magpie narrator that roves from subject to subject in search of a unifying theme is a familiar beast in the fauna of creative nonfiction, but here the magpie makes its nest from materials that are even more varied and surprising: not just personal history and research, but whole poems, statements of fact, quotes from friends, and other cultural artifacts. And then there are the absences. The crossed-out lines, the frequently employed editing mark ‘TK’—which is used to indicate changes or additions still-to-come—to suggest a provisional text, and the unfinished lines. These qualities contribute to a voice that is always in mid-utterance, always about to express itself, ever inchoate. This is not, as it may initially appear, incomplete; it is rigorously ordered for effect. In fact, the book’s greatest feat consists of how it unfolds with an awareness of the reader’s mind. After introducing the big question of Why would anyone choose the life of the writer, knowing its struggles and discontents?, Minor offers us the following:
You ponder the nature of it.
It hurts too much, so you push it away.
The next week, and the week after that, you do it all again.
There’s a rhythm, a pattern.
His is not an arbitrary use of second-person voice. Minor speaks most to fellow travelers on the writing road; he names the affliction at the same time that he recognizes the privileged stance whereby we can feel put upon by our own passions. The uses of rhythm and the pattern are how Minor crafts an essay collection that is profoundly poetic. I won’t say lyrical because it does not sit upon its own beauty. Rather, it is structured in echoes and reverberations with a familiarity that is at first alarming, because it seems to access a private place where readers have stored these selfsame thoughts.
I expect to see the essays from this collection used as a classroom text in many creative writing courses, due to their masterful approach to craft, specifically the utilization of challenging and idiosyncratic structures, as well as the use of experimental methods such as the “TK and metaphor” method the author learned from fellow essayist Jen Percy, in which, according to the author, “the images precede the narrative and guide the making of the narrative.” It would be difficult to find a better recent text to demonstrate the delicate balance of outward-looking research and inward-looking reflection required of effective creative nonfiction than the essays in How to Disappear and Why.
My assessment of the value of How to Disappear and Why as a relevant creative work from the last year could hardly be higher. The collection’s ability to engage in a dialogue with the contemporary essay and many of the important themes contained within that genre is equal to the most celebrated major award-winning books of this period. The fact that it accomplishes all of this through simple and accessible language, yet a complex cast of characters from the author’s personal history, literary history, and even maritime history, is further testament to its potential for longevity.
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Phong Nguyen is the author of six books, including the forthcoming novel The Three Daughters of Annam (to be released on December 8, 2026). His most recent novel, Bronze Drum, was named one of NPR’s Best Books of the Year for 2022, a Book of the Month Club selection for August 2022, and was featured or favorably reviewed in The New York Times, Washington Post, St Louis Post-Dispatch, NPR, and many more newspapers and magazines. His other books include Roundabout, part of the Missouri Authors Series; Adventures of Joe Harper, winner of the Prairie Heritage Award; Pages from the Textbook of Alternate History; and Memory Sickness and Other Stories, winner of the Elixir Press Fiction Award. He is co-editor, with Dan Chaon, of Nancy Hale: On the Life and Work of a Lost American Master. He is co-editor, with Robert Olen Butler, of Best Peace Fiction: A Social Justice Anthology. He currently serves as the Miller Family Endowed Chair in Literature and Writing at the University of Missouri, where he teaches fiction-writing.














































































































































