By Kelly Shetron
The last best friend my grandma had was Marge. Every night at dinner, the two sat together in the nursing home dining hall. With her glaucoma and macular degeneration, Memom could hardly see, so Marge read her the menu. Memom always ordered the same thing regardless: chicken fingers with honey mustard, followed by a heap of ice cream.
“Everything is copacetic!” Memom would say whenever I called. I imagined her feeling her way around her small apartment, keeping up with her rituals: drinking instant coffee in the pre-dawn morning, singing aloud to Sinatra, organizing her closet. She was happiest in her own space—“I’m just putzing around!”—and was proudly “not a joiner,” but if Marge was going to Friday wine and cheese or to sit in the sun, Memom would too, pushing her walker down the hall behind her friend.
After Memom died, Marge stayed in touch by email. I DON’T HAVE ANYONE TO JOKE WITH, MISS HER ESPECIALLY AT SUNDAY BRUNCH AND DINNER. THE LADIES AT MY TABLE ARE FINE AND VERY NICE – IT IS JUST DIFFERENT.
Eventually, Marge’s own vision began to deteriorate, but she wrote to say she made a new friend, Carol. SHE IS SO HELPFUL TO ME, SHE READS ME THE MENU TO ME AT DINNERTIME.
Maybe some nights Carol doesn’t have to say a word. Marge knows just what she wants.
Kelly Shetron is a writer and community researcher based in New Jersey. A graduate of the Stonecoast MFA program and the Salt Institute for Documentary Studies, she is at work on an essay collection about the ghosts that haunt her.
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