By James Geary
My wife, Linda, and I moved last summer, from the big old beautiful house we had been renting for 10 years to a much smaller, slightly less old, definitely not as beautiful apartment. Our kids are out on their own, and we thought it was time for a change. So I stepped down from my job, and we decided to shake things up by moving to a part of Boston we hardly knew.
In the midst of the move, standing in my study among shoulder-high stacks of book boxes, I had that feeling you get after committing to a dramatic course of action that is, you now suddenly realize, too late to reverse: My God, what have I done?! Then I thought of an aphorism by English poet and priest George Herbert:
After the house is finished, leave it.
I’ve loved aphorisms since I was eight, after discovering the Quotable Quotes page in Reader’s Digest, but this one seemed like such bad advice, so completely the opposite of what you should do: After the house is finished, live in it! But standing there with all my stuff in boxes, I think I got it. Linda and I had built something — We had raised our kids, provided a roof over their heads, foundations for their futures. Our kids are finished with our house, so they left it. Now we’re finished with it, too.
After the house is finished, leave it. Home is a place you take with you.
James Geary is the author of Wit’s End: What Wit Is, How It Works, and Why We Need It, I Is an Other: The Secret Life of Metaphor, and the New York Times bestseller The World in a Phrase: A Brief History of the Aphorism, among other books
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I enjoyed reading the thought process. Particularly when an old aphorism finally lands and is understood. I love the writer’s own aphorism of “Home is a place you take with you.” Too true!