By Elita Suratman
“Look,” Abah says, his thumb pointing to the pouch taking shape in my sister’s hands. In mine, a tangle of green fronds. Unshaped. Unformed.
I am eight and on the floor of the living room, learning to weave palm leaves into diamond-shaped pouches to make ketupat, a rice cake.
Every year on the eve of Hari Raya, Abah entwines these leaves into legacy, his fingers in concert as they guide the young malleable green blades over and under, the coils swishing, taking turns, one over another.
In the kitchen, Mama fills the finished pouches with rice grains and plunges them into boiling water in bundles of five. Trapped in the weave, the grains are forced into shape as they expand.
The metamorphosis begins.
Tomorrow, we will sit at the dinner table after Raya prayers and Mama will cut open the ketupat, peeling away the skin of now-brittle fronds to reveal the sheen of the cake within.
A diamond of compressed white rice.
Today, Abah harkens me back to the lesson. “Buat macham ini.” He puts his hands out as if about to clap. I follow. My father picks out two fresh strips of leaves, one for each hand, and wraps them around my fingers. He holds my hands in his and I watch the dark of his pupils scan every tuck of the leaf, every coil over each finger, every twist around my wrists, to make sure I am properly set up. Then, he lets go.
And I try again.
Elita Suratman emigrated from Singapore with dreams of following in her father’s footsteps as a writer. A master’s degree, family and a twenty-year marketing career later, she’s discovering her writing roots, working on a cross-continent memoir on her flyway toward self-identity. Read excerpts in Flights, Herstry, Beyond Words, also forthcoming in Cutbank Literary Journal and Five Minutes. You can find more of her work at elitasuratman.com.
Image by Mufid Majnun courtesy of Unsplash
What a lovely and captivating story, so sensitively and beautifully written.
I could envision it all and the photo brought it to a life in a fresh and vivid way.
This is one to remember and to share. And I’m enthused to look at all of your writing.
Thank you for the inspiration and my first tears of joy of the day.
Many blessings.
Kierra, thank you for your kind words. My father recently passed away and reading how this piece has touched you brings happy tears to me, too!
lovely – such tenderness throughout and a perfect closing line.
“entwines these leaves into legacy.” How beautifully that captures the things we learn from our parents and how freighted they are with expectations for who we will become. Thank you for a beautiful essay.
Such a tender scene. We’re in the room with 8-year-old you in the midst of a family tending to tradition. Your hands, your father’s, the green fronds, the sheen on the finished diamond rice cakes—vivid images. A pleasure to read.
Lovely. I appreciated too that it’s a tradition in which both parents take part to make a beautiful tasty treat for the whole family, not just the mothers in the kitchen but also the fathers in the home as well. It makes it more complex, no, richer is the word, that your father is teaching you and your sister how to make the pouch. I will reflect upon this story all day long, I know! Thank you.
I love getting a glimpse into your writing! In even such a small sample, it felt so full. Go Mama Elita! 🙂
I love getting a glimpse into your writing! Even in a small sample, it felt so full. Go Mama Elita! 🙂
A beautiful and delicate piece of writing. You capture the fragility and tenderness of your youth.
I am delighted to be introduced to you and your writing. I look forward to reading more!