By Diane Gottlieb
I found a lost memory today. Discovered it inside a writing prompt: recall something you’ve misheard. The title of the 1971 Sly and the Family Stone song is “It’s a Family Affair,” but I swore it was “A Family of Bears.” How wonderful it felt to belt out a song about bears and more bears, a family of bears.
I imagined clumsy cubs gorging on berries, their proud pappa watching, as he scratched his back against a nearby tree. And the mamma. A lovely, furry, solid mass of strength, safety, devotion. Oh, that glorious mamma who lived to protect her young!
I was young in 1971. Clumsy. I gorged on chocolate and more chocolate—maybe berries too. Somehow, I hoped—though I didn’t know it—that my soft full rolls of flesh would save me. Somehow, I knew—though I didn’t know it—that my own mamma, who took to bed midday, hibernating beneath worn woolen blankets, my dear mamma, who wore sunglasses indoors to hide swollen eyes, disappear her tears, would disappoint me, deeply. Leave me to the wolves.
A family of bears.
It’s funny how the mind tells the ears what to hear. How the heart tells the voice what to sing.
Diane Gottlieb is the editor of Awakenings: Stories of Body & Consciousness, the forthcoming Manna Songs: Stories of Jewish Culture & Heritage and the Prose/Creative Nonfiction Editor of Emerge Literary Journal. Her writing appears in Brevity, River Teeth, Witness, Florida Review, Colorado Review, The Rumpus, Huffington Post, among many other lovely places.
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I love this with all the bears inside me! Thank you, Diane!
Joan Hagy
This speaks to my soul! I feared leaving my children with such a fate but managed to persevere. I love the bear element in your telling!
“The heart tells the voice what to sing.” This is beautiful Diane. Your whole piece sings! It’s just lovely.
Diane, your beautiful memory brought a smile to my morning.
The way this piece turns is masterful. And the musicality of the words — stunning!
Chills.
This piece is so elegant and surprising in its slide from delight to horror, from the misheard to the unspoken. Wowza and thank you.
If we listen, how our unconscious mind wants to care for us and help us sing!
Beautifully written…thank you, Diane
Sly Stone: You’ve found a memory I had lost! He had a way with him of giving songs new meanings. You got a family of bears. Those bears will Never be gone. I got a trip to Ohio where Sly and the Family rented me a room in a hotel and he was all about Everyday People.
I’m not sure if he was every day, but then aren’t all of us exactly equal, but different, and memorable?
In our own ways?
Everyday is extraordinary!
A beautiful thing indeed!
Bear hugs to you for this beautiful essay.
Hauntingly beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
I found myself singing It’s a family of bears and making up words. Thank you for the delightful revelation.
This is so poignant, Diane.
Diane, your essay is as lovely and kind hearted as you.
This is incredible! So much craft and layers of meaning. Thank you for sharing this gorgeous piece with us.
Brilliant … thank you.
Diane, I love this. Last lines to remember: “It’s funny how the mind tells the ears what to hear. How the heart tells the voice what to sing.”
Oh, Diane. ❤️🩹. Stunning in more ways than I can begin to explain.