By Sarah Barnett
Mah Jong: a game played at heart-stopping speed by women who should have been ruling countries or corporations instead of serving coffee cake and stockpiling nickels and dimes for semi-annual excursions to a Broadway show. They—Daisy, Dottie, Hilda, Stella—enjoyed a dirty joke, drank whiskey neat.
The game begins in our living room with the clatter of twelve dozen tiles shuffled by four pairs of hands. Temporary silence while walls are built, bets made.
They play with the skill and speed of options traders, hands moving, brains calculating, eyes checking table, hand, and game card. Pick a tile; keep or toss; call it; hear what others throw; keep the rhythm going – 6dot, 4crack, 8bam.
A pause.
“I’m thinking,” Daisy says.
“We’re not getting any younger,” Stella responds.
They play in living rooms and kitchens, in back yards and on front porches. In warm weather they stuff tissues in their bras and stand near the window fan during breaks. In the Catskills, the table moves to the handball court and on one sweltering August day, to the shallow end of the swimming pool.
My mother, Hilda, didn’t make millions trading hog bellies or orange juice futures. She played Mah Jong with fake money but used real dollars to shop the sales. The Mah Jong set—144 ivory tiles, wooden racks, pretend coins, stowed in an imitation alligator leather case—rests on the top shelf of my closet. A memento from another time.
Before retiring and discovering the joys of writing creatively, Sarah Barnett had careers as a teacher, a librarian and a lawyer. She retired to Rehoboth Beach where she joined the Writers’ Guild and began leading Free Writes and writing essays and short fiction. In 2021 she received a fellowship from the Delaware Division of the Arts as an emerging writer. Her work has been cited as notable in Best American Essays 2023 and published in Hippocampus, Brevity Blog, Delmarva Review, and other publications.
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So lovely, evocative of a cherished, flawed time. The rhythm of the play, the dialogue, the Catskills, the love, beautiful.
Amen!
Oh how I love this. I can see these women. I want to be among these women. Beautiful!
Love what you revealed in so few words and the beauty of your language. Those women should have ruled the world. We might be better off.
What beautiful writing, Sarah. You allowed me to eavesdrop on their brilliant moves, their amazing conversation. Thank you.
Thanks so much, Jo! I’m glad you enjoyed the piece.
What a delight. I laughed from somewhere deep inside me after reading the first paragraph. I don’t play Man Jong, but my dear 75-year-old friend plays twice a week at a senior’s centre. And she has played for years. I admire her stick-to-itiveness. And her quest for like eager minds.
I love how you capture the intensity of the game your mother plays.. You draw the reader in and I feel like I am at this table of four, honing my skills in real time, waiting for a smart ass quip from one of my friends, But no time to think of a retort, for “breakneck” speed requires every brain cell to be on high alert. The opposite of doddering. The antithesis of coffee cake.
Your multi comma sentences feels like a race to the end and in few words you capture the rhythm of the game. The reader doesn’t need to know a thing about this game to appreciate its intricacies and understand what an interesting and progressive person Hilda was. The sales and the imitation leather case leave room for the reader to move in with their own thoughts and experiences: perhaps their own, perhaps their mother’s.
I am not the least surprised such distinguished literary magazines and anthologies have published your writing. It is thought provoking and beautiful.
Thank you, Jillian
I too like my whisky neat. 🙂
The baby boomer generation has embraced the game big time,many inheriting their mother’s, aunt’s mahj Jong sets. My mother never played but I’ve inherited my cousin’s set , one of my greatest pleasures when wintering in Florida, is to play Mahjjong outside ,under an umbrella, overlooking the pool and ocean.
I loved your essay!
Mah Jong is surging in popularity and this is a beautifully written testament to why and what it’s like to play. Congratulations . You rule the writing world today.
Loved this! My mother’s game was bridge – same idea. Beautifully crafted essay!
I learned to play Mah Jongg in 1946 when I was six. I watched my aunt and her friends toss the tiles and bemoan their ‘hands.’ I didn’t play again until I retired 18 years ago, but it is something I haven’t forgotten…thanks for the memory.
I played yesterday with my 89 year old husband and 9 year old granddaughter. You captured so beautifully why!
Thanks for writing, Karen. Sadly, I never learned to play the game.
Such a wonderful, evocative essay. It really captured the essence of our mothers – thick skinned, resigned yet noble and self contained. I loved it.